Joan Nesbitt

Obituary of Joan Nesbitt

Joan Nesbitt (Volkmuth)


Greece: January 5, 2018. Predeceased by her husband, Robert Nesbitt. Joan is survived by her children, Gail (Dan) Billings, Mike (Ann Savastano) Nesbitt; grandchildren, Jessica Crowell, Rob (Jeannie) Billings, DJ Billings; sister-in-law, Jean Volkmuth; many nieces and nephews & close friend, Shirley Billings For more information about Joan, visit


Joan was born in Rochester and grew up on Alphonse Street with her 3 brothers Gordon, James and Richard.

She completed High School and eventually met a guy named Bob Nesbitt at a Kodak party. She thought he was interested only in her car… but Bob surprised her by being the love of her life. They married and had 2 children, Mike and Gail. They were blessed with grandchildren Jessica, Robert & DJ, though many friends called her “Grandma.”

She and Bob hosted many Christmas Eves where Joan made her famous lasagna. Though she complained about making it, she reveled and basked in the shower of compliments she received as they ate. One of her favorite things to do during the holiday was enjoy the Christmas lights in the surrounding area. Joan also made a mean anise cookie at holiday time. She hasn’t been able to make them in years, but anyone who knows her still asks for some of “Grandma’s cookies.” More than anything she just loved to be with Bob and her family.

Joan enjoyed watching the grandkids and having everyone over to swim in the pool. One of her other secret pleasures was going to the mall to shop! She balanced that off by going to church at St. Charles. Her and Bob also often took advantage of 2 for 1 drinks and lunch at Ruby Tuesdays. She enjoyed an occasional 7 & 7 and wouldn’t eat a hot dog unless it was burnt.

As for sports teams, Joan was a lover of the Detroit Tigers and NY Giants.  On the creative side, she loved to sew and create ceramics. TV shows?... loved sitcoms and watching ice skating. Nora Roberts novels kept her nose in books.

Joan was affectionately referred to as the “Sargent,” as she ran a tight ship. At the same time, she was the most loving and giving person with an incredible sense of humor. She was a pro at sneaking her granddaughter out of High School with her best friend and going to McDonalds. She will also loved holding hands with everyone.

Joan was always dedicated to going to every recital, birthday party and basketball game. Though not a cat-lover, she still watched her kids kitties while they were away. When Joan was struggling with dementia she claimed to be a Ping Pong Champion with many trophies and metals.  There is no record of any of this, but the family is still very proud of this “accomplishment.”

There are many amusing memories of Joan. Many will never forget the time she sat on the Styrofoam cooler or… the “bathing suit incident,” or even the time she got pooped on by a bird. Joan was a strong, independent person, but always the life of the party. She will be missed by all who loved her.

Visitation will be Monday, January 8, 2018 from 1-4 PM at the funeral home, 1411 Vintage Lane.(Between 390 and Long Pond Rd.) Joan’s funeral mass will be celebrated on Tuesday at 9 AM at St. Charles Borromeo Church, 3003 Dewey Ave. Interment in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent Hildebrandt Hospice Center, 2652 Ridgeway Ave, Rochester, NY 14626 in Joan’s name.