Obituary of Joseph M. Marchese
October 3, 2020. Joe is predeceased by his mother Annette Pizzicato; aunts, Amelia & Josephine Pizzicato; uncle Michael Pizzicato. He is survived by his wife Nancy (Johnson) Marchese; children, Jaime (Suzanne) Marchese & Marney (Paul) Singer; grandchildren, Joey Marchese, Logan Singer, Nicole Marchese, Amelia Marchese, Cara Marchese & Kathryn Singer; sister-in-law, Marney Fairall; nephew, Brian Fairall; aunt Vera Pizzicato. Cousins, special friends & fly fishing brothers, you know who you are.
AS PER NYS REGULATIONS, ALL ARE REQUIRED TO WEAR A MASK AND HAND SANITIZE AT THE FUNERAL HOME, CHURCH AND CEMETERY.
Joe's life story will be shared during his visitation at the funeral home, Wednesday, October 7th, from 1-3 & 6-8 PM., 1411 Vintage Lane (Between 390 & Long Pond Rd.). His funeral Mass will be celebrated Thursday, October 8th, 10AM at St. John of Rochester. 8 Wickford Way, immediately followed by his interment in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to Hirshberg Foundation for Pancreatic Cancer Research, 2990 S. Sepulveda Blvd., Suite 300 C, Los Angeles, CA 90064 in Joe's memory.
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Joe was born on August 9th, 1943 in Rochester, NY. He grew up on Scio street with his mom, Annette Pizzicato and an extended family including his aunts, uncles, and cousins. He graduated from Mt. Carmel grade school and The Aquinas Institute. He was the first in his family to attend college and graduated from Purdue University in 1965 with a BS in Psychology.
While at Purdue he joined the brotherhood of Sigma Pi Fraternity, ETA chapter and made many life-long friends. It was also there, at a Fraternity Dance, that he met Nancy Johnson of Hazel Crest, IL. They married on September 10, 1966 in IL and settled in Rochester. Their son Jaime was born in 1968 and daughter Marney followed two years later. They all enjoyed family vacations tent camping for many years with family friends in various places throughout the Northeast. Joe and Nancy were active in Marriage Encounter and Youth Ministry at Holy Cross and Holy Name parishes, hosting couples for weekends away and teens in their home. Two other highlights were trips to Northern Italy in 2000 and Southern Italy in 2008. He visited his grandparents’ home town of Sicignano degli Alburni in the hills outside of Sorrento for a day. After accidentally deleting all of his pictures from that day, he was “forced” to reschedule the itinerary and go back there the next day. So he got to “Return to Sorrento” for another day. That song was special to him and he loved to sing it loudly!
His first job out of college was with the NYS Employment Service as a Youth Employment Counselor. In 1967, Joe began his career with IBM in downtown Rochester. After ten successful years in Administration, and against the advice of management, he decided to take a career leap and attended IBM Marketing School. He graduated at the top of his class and was elected President by his classmates. His honest and ethical approach lead to many successful years and was rewarded with trips to various places around the United States and Europe. After 30 years, Joe retired from IBM in 1997. But he wasn’t done. He continued to work selling IBM products for affiliated companies for more than ten years longer before finally retiring from the industry. The final chapter in his work career answered a life-long calling and he worked in olive oil business for F. Oliver’s. It blended his Italian heritage, love of cooking, sales acumen, and brought him back to his old neighborhood at the Rochester Public Market.
He loved fishing all of his life. That evolved into a true passion for fly fishing, especially in retirement. For everyday fly fishing locally or in places including Montana, Colorado, Wyoming, Alberta, and British Columbia, many hours were spent getting prepared by reading books, tying flies, and practicing casting. Most important though were the times spent fishing with his son and grandsons or with his fishing brothers in “various places.”
His upbringing, unconventional though it was, shaped him into the strong family man that he was. Family and traditions meant everything. And “family” didn’t just mean his blood relatives. He had many life-long friends that he counted as family too. The traditional family meals were important to him. When prior generations moved on, he made sure that the traditions continued by hosting or making things like homemade raviolis, pizza-gain, and cuccidatis. And then there was his famous seafood salad on Christmas Eve…
Joe was born into a new roll as “Papa” when his first grandson (also Joseph) was born in 1999. Logan, Nicole, Amelia, Cara, and Kathryn followed over the next eight years. He was a very proud Papa, attending as many of their sporting events, tournaments, ceremonies, and recitals as he physically was able. He joked, laughed, and bantered with them at every opportunity. He told them he loved them but he even loved them even more than that.
So whether he was Joe, Joey, Giuseppe, Dad, or Papa to you, he loved you and you know it.