Joan Neefe

Obituary of Joan E. Neefe

ROCHESTER - Joan was born March 14, 1934. She peacefully departed this life on June 25, 2018 at the age of 84, surrounded by the love of her family. She is survived by her beloved children, Paul (Kathy) Neefe, Debbie Neefe Young & Kim (Kevin) Murray; grandchildren, Tara (Lloyd) Wilson, Kate Murray, Courtney (Charles) Perry, Stephanie (fiancé Kurt Stodolka) Neefe; great-grandchildren, Lloyd Jr., Ashton & Savannah Wilson; sister Jean Whiteford; several nieces, nephews, cousins and dear friends.

Joan grew up in the 10th Ward, she attended Sacred Heart Academy, Grade School and was a graduate of John Marshall High School. The Brickler family had operated the Stutson Street/O’Rourke Bridge for over three generations. Joan was it’s first female lift bridge operator. Most of her family lived in the Charlotte neighborhood, this and her work began her lifelong love of Charlotte Beach. In later years she resided at Edna Tina Wilson Living Center where she enjoyed socializing & crafting.

Special thanks to all the wonderful caregivers at Edna Tina Wilson Living Center for their incredible kindness and care give to Joan. for more information about Joan please visit

Joan’s visiting hours will be Thursday, June 28th, 4-8 PM at the Funeral Home, 1411 Vintage Lane (between 390 & Long Pond Rd.). Her Funeral Mass will be celebrated Friday, June 29th, 10 AM at Holy Cross Church, 4492 Lake Ave., immediately followed by her burial in Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. In lieu of flowers donations may be sent to, Charlotte-Genesee Lighthouse Historical Society, 70 Lighthouse St., Rochester NY 14612 in her memory.

Joan had a very active & social her whole life. Beginning in her youth, she and her family enjoyed camping, boating and snowmobiling with family and friends. Her childhood hobbies continued in her adulthood as Joan traveled with her 3 children, Paul, Debbie and Kim, to the Adirondack Mountains for vacations. She also loved family gatherings, holidays and “day dates” with her grandchildren. Joan was very proud and honored to be the first female Liftbridge Operator for the Stutson Street/O’Rouke Bridge by Charlotte Beach in Rochester, NY. She truly enjoyed going to the beach and sailing. In her later years, she participated in her “cousins club” which included around 60 cousins. Joan loved the ambiance of lighthouses, her favorite movie was Pretty Woman and her favorite song was Close to You by The Carpenters. Joan is described as a very caring and loving person with a big heart. She loved comradery and conversing with people. Joan will always be fondly remembered by all who knew her, and her legacy will continue to live on through the hearts and minds of her family and friends. She will be deeply missed.

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